I think what we really need is a few more people posting anonymously on a message board complaining about a lack of "accountability" on the part of others.
Incidentally, I suspect Coach Ash is subject to far more accountability than anyone else that has ever posted on this board. The nature of a college football coach isn't one of a long term guaranteed contract. He only has a job as long as he meets the very high expectations of the donors (no matter how warped or misguided those expectations may be). That's a pretty extreme form of accountability.
On a separate topic, speaking to the frat thing (we don't know exactly what was said, so we are relying on people's interpretations and characterizations of what he said, which are generally not one and the same), but I would bet that most college sports fans would probably agree that a player shouldn't be spending a lot of time on fraternity activities and should instead be focusing their time on the team and spending time with their teammates (see Coach Strong's rules at Texas which so many people couldn't praise enough, which essentially preclude players from being in fraternities). I don't happen to agree with that mindset (as I think all college students, including student-athletes, should be encouraged to get the most out of their time in college by experiencing the most diversity they can), but that approach is a really common one in the college sports world. I'm sure if Ash does feel that players shouldn't be in fraternities, he's in the majority of coaches on that topic.
Here's the rule at Texas that I was speaking about:
"The team will all live together, eat together, suffer together, and hang out together."
I think it's a pretty messed up philosophy, but many in and around college sports just eat that kind of thing up. The idea that football players should have interests and relationships outside of football (or that football shouldn't be a player's number 1 priority 24/7/365) is jarring to some people.